This month I will celebrate my 21st birthday. And this fact makes me feel everything and nothing.
I remember how my parents used to tell me that they forget how old they are or that they don’t want to celebrate their birthdays. This was bringing great confusion to my 12 year old brain.
How can you not be excited about your birthday? How can you forget about it? It is such a happy occasion. The thing you are always looking forward to. It makes all beloved people come together, give you presents and appreciate you. The birds are singing just for you, you look 100 times more attractive and your whole existence gets a new meaning. Right?
But here I am, years later, realizing that I am turning 21 in a few weeks. Just pointing out, to be more exact. And my brain is insisting that I should at least treat my friends with some good food and drinks, but my tired of work and exams ass is dreaming about a good chocolate cake and a movie in bed. My prejudice proves me wrong at all stages of life.
However, what moves me about it, is the simple fact how much I have grown. And I know, I am only 21, and my experience with life is limited (I have no single grey string in my hair, I have no idea how to guess which wine is good by the bottle and I still struggle with washing my dishes regularly), but I still feel like through the years I have learned and mastered a thing or two that I would like to share.
My first life lessons were simple – if you bite your finger, it hurts. If you hit another kid – it will probably hit you back. Later on they turned into – this guy is not worth it, or you won’t even remember this humiliation in a few years, but I feel like the first ones were the key to everything. Such a silly way to learn it, but applicable even now:
- Your actions cause contra-actions.
Followed by 20 more. I will just leave them in a list, because I believe some need no further explanation and others – their own post:
- Take responsibility.
- Be cautious of your friendships.
- Learn to say “No”.
- Take time to enjoy life.
- Take care of your body and soul.
- Don’t regret things it is too late to change.
- Learn from your mistakes.
- Consider you are not always right.
- Love and respect yourself.
- Make your life as organized as possible.
- Be empathetic.
- Love, give and share, as much as you can for as long as you can, but not more.
- Strive to be keep your values and principles.
- Always keep learning and developing.
- Try to escape from prejudice (This one gets me every time)
- Wash your god damn dishes while they are just a few. (This one as well)
- Strive for more.
I feel like those lessons are universal and we all come to the same realizations in life, sooner or later.
Either way, I am grateful for both the challenges and the eases I had, because they both gave me a lesson or two. And even though we learn most through pain, after every winter comes spring.